Dating again at 45
If you know right away whether your first date is worthy of a second, you're setting yourself up for failure.Intuitive dating coach Nikki Novo says this is a common mistake."Dating in our 40s typically means we know what we want, and we feel pressed to find it quick! "But eliminating fast is often the strategy that prolongs our single status." She warns that there is a thin line between "going with your gut" and being judgmental.(Are excuses like 'I don't like how their apartment smells,' really deal-breakers?
"You don't want to start off with dishonesty." Instead she says, if you love a certain fantasy novel, talk about it.Morris suggests reframing “baggage” as “life experience,” and Erika Ettin, dating coach and author of has found this to be true.For example, Ettin says, one of her clients didn’t want to date a man because he took care of his grandson. “It showed that he was dedicated to his family,” says Ettin, who encouraged her client to give it a shot.If all that swiping starts to feel overwhelming, shut it down.In fact, a lot of people over 40 miss dating IRL, according to Novo, who says her clients have the most success when they hang out at places that make them feel good, like a bar that plays their favorite music, at a cozy independent coffee shop, or by joining a running or fitness community—if that's your thing.