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I am lucky enough to coach some of the most successful, well-known, and powerful people on this planet. But whether or not I get it doesn’t make nearly as much of a difference as having my own approval.
And it never ceases to amaze me how quickly they regress back to their younger, eager, validation-seeking selves when Dad sends them a simple text after skating in and out of their lives (either emotionally, physically or both) for years and years. If your Dad had a hard time expressing his emotions, accepting you or making you feel beautiful/cool/accepted/capable enough, he was most likely emotionally unavailable and unhappy with himself and his life at the time. There comes a point though when we need to realize that if a pattern exists, it’s not Dad or our boyfriend hurting us, it’s us to retraumatize ourselves because that’s all we know.
And I failed to let people own their own behavior and decisions because I couldn’t own my own.
My consistent pattern of being involved with emotionally unavailable and narcissistic men came from patterns that were ingrained as a child.
I had become emotionally unavailable myself and I still battle my reverse narcissism to this day.
I made everyone’s bad and hurtful behavior about me not being good enough.
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A few months ago, I was talking to my friend, David Kessler.
why the I even had such deep daddy issues in the first place.
I have a Dad who was consistently present growing up. When it comes to girls with daddy issues…You subconsciously attract (and are attracted to) men that highlight any unresolved issues that you have in both the relationship lack thereof, with your Father or a significant male figure from your childhood. It creates an illusory feeling of comfort due to the familiarity but also, it creates a perpetual underlying feeling of dis-ease in your relationships.
No one had the perfect parent and no one will be the perfect parent. We don’t know what availability or connectivity looks/feels like and even though we may claim to want it more than anything, we’re much more comfortable in an environment of claiming to want it while being the victim of its absence.