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Everyone age 18-40 was with someone, and I was just there off to the side by myself. I’ve already struggled with being around my family, because I’m usually the odd man out, but just being surrounded by everyone I grew up with and realizing I’m alone was awful. I’ve done so much to work on myself but this part of my life is missing, and it’s hard.
Sharing my life with someone is the one thing I’ve wanted since I was a little girl, and I’m losing hope that it’s going to happen, especially as I get older. I don’t really have anyone to celebrate life’s achievements with.
My uncle passed away this week, and while at his funeral, I realized I’m the last one in my generation (so to speak) who’s still single.
My sister, all my cousins, they all have spouses or long-term relationships.
Can anyone who has dated through divorce shed some light on this and help get me off the hook? What’s weird is when I reply that I can’t or I’m on available they get real chatty and kinda clingy about why I can’t hang out (usually a valid excuse like work or something ) .
Sometimes it doesn’t take days to get a response but it takes a really long time ....sometimes 12 hours or more to the point where I can’t put my day on hold for the day anymore I have to do something else and don’t hear from that person again until 10 o’clock at night. Also posted in r/relationshipadvice Edit : I have exchanged numbers with these people from meeting them on a dating app.
This has really triggered my depression, and I’m just over it.
In hopes of sparing you some of those tears and years of dragging yourself joylessly through the dating gauntlet, here are: 1. If you’re demanding that your date show up a certain way, you’ll miss the opportunity to enjoy what’s actually in front of you. Get clear on what your must-haves and deal-breakers are, but stay open to possibility. Is it possible you haven’t yet met the (likely insanely high) standards you hold for someone you want to date? Probably picked up close to 30 new friends/acquaintances in the last year. Is there something I can do to help encourage the occasional phone call? I’ve experienced a lot of ghosting and rejection in the past few years also.I tend to assume that if the guy won’t call, it means that he JUST wants to sleep with me and has no intention of a relationship. I apologize for the wall of text, but I’m trying to provide some background. I’ve never really been the girl who had guys clamoring to be with her.
Clear space for the next great date to come in—no guilt required.